The Tar
Position
Most tars have a thumbhole or a space for the left thumb. Form a “U” with your left hand, and put the thumb through the hole. With the tip of your right hand thumb you stabilize the drum from the side ca 90 degrees from your left hand. It is important not to grab the drum with your left hand. The drum has to be free to move a little while playing. It just needs some time to find the balance.
Doum
For the bass stroke use the right ringfinger. You reach towards the center of the drum, hit the skin and let your finger bounce off immediately. All the strokes with the right hand are done with a movement also from the wrist, not only the finger.
Tak
The rimstroke is done with the right and left ringfingers on the edge of the rim. Try not to dampen the skin and to make the sound as open as possible
PA
For this stroke your hand should be slightly cupped. Then you hit the drum as much towards the center as possible and keep the hand on the skin for a moment to dampen the sound.